Recently I have been catching myself thinking, there is not enough time in the day to accomplish everything I need to do. My to-do lists often carry over into the next day, then the next, and eventually get lost in the bottom of my purse, never to be found again. Between starting my own real estate business, pouring my heart and dedication into the blog, working with clients (whom I absolutely adore), and oh yeah, still trying to maintain somewhat of a personal life, I feel like a chicken with my head cut off (and probably look the part too). Yet each night I climb into bed (way too late), & the 50 things I didn’t accomplish are running through my head. I then wake up and do it all over again.
A work-life balance, what a fantastic idea, in theory. But I didn’t want it to be just a theory, I wanted to master this idea of owning a successful business, while living each day to its upmost potential. So, I’ve put together a few tips & tricks I have begun using in my daily life, in order to achieve this balance. On a side note, the only babies/ children we have is our fur-baby silver lab, Duke, who is the size of a small child & needs bathed as often as most children, however I am in no way an expert in this area. Mom’s (or dad's) I do hope these tips can be used in your daily life as well & would love to hear your ideas and thoughts on this subject!
Outline your Non-Negotiables:
So what’s a non-negotiable? For me it’s my daily workout & a cup of coffee to jump start my day. What are your non-negotiables? Your yoga class 2 times a week, settling in with a good book for an hour before you head to bed, 10 minutes of meditation before everyone wakes up, or an hour of uninterrupted time with your children? Your non-negotiables are something you fit into your day, no matter what. This could be at 6am or 10pm, no matter the course of the day, you’re going to do it, it’s not negotiable.
I remember learning early on that people make time for what they really want to do. Something I often remind myself when I feel as if I haven’t done anything for just me. That saying is relevant in your daily life, your relationships & your work. If it truly matters, and holds a sense of importance to you, you will find time to do it, and you should.
If you’re anything like me, my phone is in constant use. If it isn’t my phone, it’s the Apple Watch, if it isn’t my Apple Watch it’s my computer. There is always something I’m supposed to be doing; checking the blog, answering DM’s, filling out contracts, checking Instagram, checking my email, looking at possible homes for buyers, I’m getting tired just writing this list! The kicker is, most of what I need to be doing on a daily basis requires some sort of technology!
You get sucked into a virtual reality of other people’s lives or a conversation with someone you may not even be in the same room as. But, what about those people who are in the same room as you? Are you asking how their day went, what’s going on in their lives? Are you being present, in the moment you are in? This is a challenge, and a big one for me. It takes practice, and a conscious effort to be present and disconnect from technology, work, or whatever it is that keeps you up into the night.
What’s the best way to disconnect? For me, it’s making myself plug my phone in at 7pm (at the latest). Not only do I sleep better, from having at least a couple hours to unwind but it allows me to have meaningful conversations with loved ones, actual conversations not one I have to type! Maybe your time is in the morning before heading to work, or a couple hours in the evening reserved for family time with dinner and a movie. Whatever it is, make the effort to disconnect, it’s a big step in the direction of finding this balance.
Live to Thrive, Work to Survive
Balancing a work life & a social/ personal life is not an easy feat. Often times you may feel like they run together, or one is more non-existent than the other, (don’t worry, it’s not just you.) In the midst of a chaotic work day, remind yourself that we were put on this earth to thrive. To enjoy every aspect of the day, from the minute we wake up to the minute our heads hit the pillow. Thriving, what does it mean to you? Spending as much time as you can with your loved ones? Traveling the world? Crossing off items on your bucket list? Most of us plan to be at work 5 days a week, 8 hours a day (or whatever your hours may be) but it’s a specific plan in your day. Why are you not planning that same type of schedule to live? To go on a date night, to go to your favorite yoga class, to take your dream trip to Italy? Isn’t it funny? We plan all of our days based on work, yet we forget to plan our time to live, most importantly our time to thrive.
My hope is that you take the time to outline your non-negotiables in your day, disconnect & enjoy the now and I promise you will see the rest of it fall into place. Especially when you decide to live to thrive & work to survive.