For the girl who gets asked constantly “when are you getting married?”, this is for you. For the guy who gets asked “when are you proposing?”, this is for you. For the couple who get’s asked “when are you having your first child?”, this is for you. & for the people who are asking these questions, this is definitely for you. This topic has been so incredibly heavy on my heart this past year and I finally took the time to put those thoughts into words. Yes, we get asked constantly “when are you getting married”, and for the longest time I felt guilty not being able to give an exact answer. As if we should have a date, time and location every time someone asked. I found myself getting angry, questioning “what is wrong with us? why are we not married/engaged etc.” I’ll be the first to tell you comparison is the ABSOLUTE thief of joy. & when I stopped comparing our season to everyone else’s, I realized I LOVE our life, the season we are in & I figured out that the pressure of “we should be married” only came from outside opinions, not our love for one another. I quickly realized I wasn’t alone in this. The amount of girls, moms, friends & family I have talked to who struggle with not living their lives according to everyone else’s schedule is unimaginable. I’ve talked to the girl who has been in a relationship for 10 years, yet not married & I’ve talked to the girl who has been in a relationship for 2 years & are expecting their first child. Those women are no different from one another, it was their season of life & they made decisions on their own terms. To the person who asks “when are you getting married?”- maybe it’s not their season, & that’s okay. Maybe they have career goals they want to hit together first. To the person who asks “when are you having children”- maybe it’s not their season & that’s okay. Maybe they medically can not do so & aren’t ready to share that with the world. We have NO idea what season the people around us are in, and we can’t change that. But what we can do is give each other a little grace. & instead of asking those questions, remind them how proud you are of them, how excited you are for them in THIS season.